{"id":1807,"date":"2025-11-18T16:46:02","date_gmt":"2025-11-18T16:46:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/readinstory.com\/?p=1807"},"modified":"2025-11-18T16:46:02","modified_gmt":"2025-11-18T16:46:02","slug":"i-refuse-to-marry-my-fiance-after-what-his-mother-said-to-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/readinstory.com\/?p=1807","title":{"rendered":"I Refuse To Marry My Fianc\u00e9 After What His Mother Said To Me"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I (f23) have been with my fianc\u00e9 (m24) for three years. I love him\u2014or at least I always thought I did. Our relationship had always felt solid: we supported each other, shared dreams, all that good stuff.<\/p>\n

The only thing missing was meeting his mom. She lived out of state, so it just hadn\u2019t happened yet\u2026 until two weeks ago. Now, honestly, I kind of wish it never had.<\/p>\n

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The very first time I met his mother, she immediately asked if I was \u201cproperly taking care of her boy.\u201d She went down the list: feeding him, doing his laundry, cleaning the house. I said yes, even though it stung, because I\u2019m juggling a job and college, and when I get home, I\u2019m still the one cooking and cleaning while he either naps or plays video games. When she and I were alone, she asked if I was a stay-at-home fianc\u00e9e.<\/p>\n

I told her no\u2014I work and study. Then she dropped a bombshell that genuinely scared me. She told me I needed to quit my job, drop out of college, and \u201cfocus on being a good wife.\u201d<\/p>\n

She said, \u201cDear, it\u2019s time for you to know that my son is supposed to be the breadwinner.\u201d Then she explained that their family had this long-standing tradition that had lasted for generations: only men are allowed to work and lead an active social life, while women are expected to stay home and be the keepers.<\/p>\n

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Later that evening at dinner, I mentioned that I wanted to become a lawyer. She looked at me like I\u2019d just announced I wanted to run away and join the circus. Then she turned to my fianc\u00e9 and said he deserved someone \u201cbetter.\u201d And he just sat there\u2026 and agreed.<\/p>\n

As if that moment wasn\u2019t awful enough, a week later she returned\u2014with a suitcase. She literally moved in \u201cfor a couple of weeks\u201d to \u201chelp me prepare for marriage.\u201d<\/p>\n

In her world, that meant trailing me around the kitchen to show me how to cook \u201creal meals,\u201d lecturing me about how often a wife should vacuum, and even trying to rearrange our closet so I\u2019d \u201cstop dressing like a teenager.\u201d I felt like I\u2019d been thrown into some sort of twisted domestic bootcamp I never signed up for. That night, after she once again told him he deserved better\u2014and he nodded along\u2014I ended the engagement.<\/p>\n

I packed my things and left. He asked why, and I told him, \u201cBecause you already believe you deserve better.\u201d He said I was \u201cmaking a big deal out of nothing.\u201d<\/p>\n

His family thinks I overreacted. My mom says I should find a compromise and avoid burning bridges.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

But I don\u2019t think I exaggerated anything\u2014I simply took them at their word and walked away. So\u2026 am I overreacting?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I (f23) have been with my fianc\u00e9 (m24) for three years. I love him\u2014or at least I always thought I did. Our relationship had always felt solid: we supported each … <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1808,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1807","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-story"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/readinstory.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1807","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/readinstory.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/readinstory.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/readinstory.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/readinstory.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1807"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/readinstory.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1807\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1809,"href":"https:\/\/readinstory.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1807\/revisions\/1809"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/readinstory.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/1808"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/readinstory.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1807"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/readinstory.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1807"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/readinstory.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1807"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}