I’m Sophia, and I’ve been with my company for five years. For a long time, I thought I was part of a tight-knit team. I was the one everyone turned to for help or favors, and I never said no. I truly believed we were friends—until the exclusions started.
It began with a baby shower. One day, I saw all the women in my department changing into dresses after work. I wasn’t invited, and later I saw photos of the whole group celebrating together. When I asked about it, I was told they assumed I was “child-free” and wouldn’t be interested. Little did they know, I had just secretly adopted a baby girl. I swallowed my hurt, thinking it was just a misunderstanding.
But then came the wedding. I overheard coworkers talking about how “amazing” a recent wedding had been. I found out the groom was the guy who started at the company the same day I did—someone I considered a close work friend. When I went to congratulate him, he looked me in the eye and said, “You didn’t know because you’re not part of the group chat.”
The real reason shattered me. Two years ago, when I got married, I had a very small, family-only wedding because I was strapped for cash. This coworker had asked to come, and I’d politely explained I couldn’t invite him. He smiled and said he understood. But behind my back, he created a team group chat specifically to exclude me as “revenge” for a guest list decision I made years ago. For two years, my entire team has been bonding, planning parties, and sharing their lives in a chat I was banned from because of one man’s grudge. I feel foolish for being so helpful to people who were actively keeping me on the outside.
