I’m Robin, and this holiday season was supposed to be a dream trip to Italy for our family. But it quickly turned into a nightmare. My husband told me he was only paying for the three of us—him, me, and our 9-year-old daughter. He flatly refused to cover the expenses for my 12-year-old daughter from my previous marriage. He said, “She’s not my responsibility. She already has a dad.”
Because I don’t work and her father couldn’t afford the trip, I felt trapped. He had already booked the tickets and hotels. I ended up leaving my oldest daughter behind with my mother. Watching her cry as we left was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
To make matters worse, my husband lied to our 9-year-old. He told her that her sister chose to spend the holidays with her dad on another trip. Once we got to Italy, the guilt ate me alive. I couldn’t keep lying. I pulled my younger daughter aside and told her the truth: her sister was at home because her dad (my husband) wouldn’t pay for her.
The reaction was immediate. My 9-year-old stopped talking to her father. She wouldn’t smile for photos, she barely ate, and on Christmas morning, she refused to open a single gift. She told us she didn’t want presents if her sister was left behind. The trip was ruined, and we ended up flying home early. Now, my husband is furious and won’t speak to me, calling me a “terrible mother” for ruining the holiday just to punish him. But I wasn’t punishing him—I was just done with the lies and the exclusion.
